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I saw this today on Julia Cameron’s Facebook page, and it made me realize how often I don’t really give my self permission to enjoy my leisure time.

 I either: 1. procrastinate it because I don’t “deserve” a break.

 2. multitask it, like combining going out for a coffee plus catching up on some study-reading I need to do.

3. waste it, I just don’t give my self permission so I don’t take the time, even though I could, and I waste time doing something less enjoyable than what I might have chosen to do if I had chosen something.  

Permission is a big deal. I’m pretty sure I am not the only one with this issue. Have you thought about it? 

Julia’s Page:

I love a good book review

cheese1I was on Amazon buying a Kindle version of The One Minute Manager because it is an excellent book and in the ribbon of “suggestions” below I noticed a link to Who Moved My Cheese which was written by one of the authors. Spouse-man got a copy of it once from work along with the rest of the IT dept and it was a harbinger of bad things coming. I clicked it, curious to read what others thought of it and I saw these reviews, they might be the best I’ve read. I hope you enjoy them too…


This Before and After Pic Is a Total Lie…For a Good Reason | Women’s Health

In one pic, she appears noticeably fitter than in the other, but the thing is…she shot the selfies 30 seconds apart. Jessica, who created the Insta account to chronicle her body transformation on Kayla Itsines’s Body Bikini Guide program, explains in the caption that poor posture is to blame for her “before” picture. In the “after,” she says she’s simply standing up straight, flexing slightly, and had adjusted her bikini bottoms.

Source: This Before and After Pic Is a Total Lie…For a Good Reason | Women’s Health

Yep, I look at Before and After pics too and this caught my eye because it is ultimately such a good reminder about posture and self-affirmation rather than some magical weight loss pill or exercise plan that will get you in shape for Summer. Something to think about 🙂

Sync Stress?

I’ve written about my Fitbit before, probably years ago. It is a step counter and I am on my third one now. Normally they just count away and I get my 10,000 steps with no problems day after day, month after month. I even participate in challenges with other people on the internet, yes that is what passes for a social life for me. 😉

This works really well until I get 10,677 steps and it won’t sync up and here I am hanging there with this:


AAAARGH! I uninstall the app, reinstall, reconnect the bluetooth connections and discovered that somewhere along the way my Fitbit has attempted a firmware upgrade which is what has probably upset my competitive process here. So as usual, things calmed down around the fourth restart and at about 1:00 am I got a sync (click for a larger view):

10,000a So I got my steps and I actually got an adrenaline bonus sprint by getting stressed about whether I would get my steps counted for the right day. Yes, I am a step-geek.

Link: my very first post about my first Fitbit

Link: the official Fitbit website


On making changes …

Is life that simple? Yes. Is life that hard? Yes. _____________________________________________________



New Year Resolutions or SMART Goals

New Year Resolutions or SMART Goals

Smart Goals

Try S.M.A.R.T. goals this year. Smart goals were developed by corporate America and they work. If you click the different links below you’ll find that there are different interpretations of the acronym and you may make up some you like better. I like my R better. 😉

What is important is that thinking your goals through in this way, then writing them out and reading them twice a day will help you to Get Focused. So, on to SMART goals…

S: specific, what exactly do you want? Not, I want to get in better shape, or I want to lose a few pounds, or I want to make more money, or, something wussy. Be specific.

M: measurable, make your goal quantifiable.  How much money? How many pounds?

A: attainable, (sometimes this one is “assignable” but since we’re setting personal goals it wouldn’t make a lot of sense) so, attainable it is. This doesn’t mean it can’t be stressful, a BHG or “big, hairy goal” is OK but if you have a huge goal, break it down into some smaller goals along the way.

R: reward/risk,  (it’s really “realistic” or “relevant” for this one but for personal goals I prefer reward/risk) a reward is something small but meaningful, if you lose a pound this week you get to add 20 bucks to the new wardrobe piggy bank. Risk is same, If you don’t lose that pound, make the number of workouts or number of sales you planned during the week, how about cold showers or no coffee on the weekend? Would that motivate you? It would motivate me!

T: timed, attach a date to it. The bigger goal can be six months out, the “check-in” goals and rewards should be weekly.

Now take some time each day to visualize what you want and why you want it! Don’t ever forget your “Why” this is so important. Read your specific, measurable, timed and written out goal statement each night before you go to sleep and dream about attaining it. Do a bonus-read in the morning as well and you are golden!

Helpful Links:

LeHigh U on Setting SMART Goals

MIT’s HR Dept on SMART Goals

SMART Goals for Dummies

Happy New Year!

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Janus-herm (3) (Photo credit: diffendale)

Hail Janus!

January is named for the Roman god Janus. According to, “Janus is the Roman god of gates and doors, beginnings and endings, and hence represented with a double-faced head, each looking in opposite directions. He was worshiped at the beginning of the harvest time, planting, marriage, birth, and other types of beginnings, especially the beginnings of important events in a person’s life.

Janus also represents the transition between primitive life and civilization, between the countryside and the city, peace and war, and the growing-up of young people.” The doors of Janus’ temple were open during times of war to provide sanctuary and closed during times of peace.

This year don’t make a bunch of resolutions that you won’t keep. Instead, see the whole month of Janus as marking the transition time between the old and new, providing sacred space to support the changes you want to make.

Have you taken Dr Phil’s Test?

Here is kind of a neat self test for you,

I took and got a 44.
I’m glad it wasn’t a math test because it took me five tries to get a total that wasn’t in the 100s. Yes, I am calculator challenged.
The hardest questions for me was number 3, because I do c, d and e interchangeably while I am talking to someone. I have a Gemini Ascendant, so I figure I am doing well if I am not jogging in place while I am talking. That is what I miss about smoking cigarettes, it gave me something to do with my hands besides twisting buttons off my blouse or breaking my pen, or folding an important note up into a little tiny cube,  some of the other things I’ve done while absorbed in interesting conversations. 🙂

What did you get?

Were any questions particularly hard for you to answer?



Vision Video

This is wonderful! You could watch this every morning for a great start to the day…